I used to think I was stuck. It seems absolutely insane and laughable now, but I couldn’t get out of my own head. On paper, life was great – by the time I was 27 I was a home owner, making six figures, traveling weekly across the US and often abroad for a job that was my dream job when I was in college. I had a ‘cool’ job in the entertainment industry – going to music festivals, throwing fun parties with your favorite celebrities and brands, and had enough disposable income to live more than comfortably. I had set out to and attained, everything my 18 years old self wanted. Yet, there was a nagging feeling that this, all of it, wasn’t it.
1. It’s too late to or I can’t change who am I and what I want.
Every single moment is an opportunity to create the life you want, to become a new you. This idea that we are supposed to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives once we leave school is not realistic. I knew exactly what I wanted it at 18, and I accomplished it. Guess what – I’m not 18 anymore, and now it’s time to grow into a completely new dream!
That’s not to say you can’t be content at the same job for 40 years – if you’re happy, keep going! However, give yourself permission to create a life you love in all areas. Want to take up a cooking class? Do it. Are you known as shy, but you’re dying to break out of your shell? Start sharing more of yourself piece by piece. You are not a prisoner to the person you were yesterday. This is your life, your blank canvas, paint with as many colors, and as often as your heart desires!
2. I have to have a reason that makes sense to OTHER people in order to follow my hearts desires.
We all have hobbies and passions that bring us joy, but what about the secret desires and bucket list that no one but you know about? I have a bucket list, and something I’ve always daydreamed of was a photo shoot around my favorite city – Paris. It felt ‘silly’, so I never said it out loud to people because I have absolutely no ‘reason’ for wanting to do it. I’m not famous, not getting married, I just…wanted to. So, I did! I mean, who doesn’t want to get dressed up in pretty dresses and twirl around Paris!?! I had the TIME OF MY LIFE!
The things you don’t tell your friends or family because it sounds crazy, silly, or impossible…those are the keys to finding your bliss. It really doesn’t matter why you want to – if you aren’t hurting yourself or anyone else – all that matters is that it makes YOU happy.This life is for you – you deserve to live out all of your hearts desires, anything else is selling yourself short.
3. It’s selfish to want more.
One day I was talking to someone about the fact that I was generally ok/content with my life, yet still wanted more. I want to do and experience so much more! I felt guilty because I realize how truly blessed I have been.
They responded by asking “how would you feel if you were simply ‘ok’ with your life 10 years from now? Does your life inspire YOU? Forget about everyone else, are YOU inspired??”
Talk about a wake up call. We shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to squeeze every last drop out of life. I want to be continuously inspired and in awe. Not just by other people’s lives, but my own life.
Are you inspired by your life? Or are you simply existing? It’s not too late to change, start now. You don’t need a reason to follow that daydream of yours. Whatever it is, you can start working towards it today. Life will pass us all by whether we use the time to our advantage or not. You are not selfish for creating your best life!